She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12
Perhaps this verse is new to you, or perhaps youâve heard faithful men of God preach it many times. However, a dear sister in the Lord, Cece Garner, gave me quite the convicting eye openener when she told me what the Lord showed her one day during her personal devotions.
First, let me cover a few others points:
1. What the verse does NOT say:
God did not say:
âShe will do him good and not evil all the days of
Perhaps your husband will die before you do; however, the verse clearly says this does not clear you of your responsibility.
2. What the verse clearly says:
âShe will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.â?
God clearly said âher life.â? That in itself is quite a thing to live up to. That means, if your husband dies, you are still to honour and respect him and âdo him good and not evil all the days of YOUR life!â?
3. What added responsibility this gives us as mothers:
This is the point that the Lord showed Cece. Letâs read it again: â She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.â?
ââ¦.all the days of her life.â? ââ¦.all the days of her life.â? God did not say: âAll the days of her married life.â? He said ââ¦all the days of her life.â? That means âeven before she gets married!â? Think about this! If you have a daughter, or perhaps you are unmarried now, as a mother, you have the responsibility to raise up your children to follow Godâs will for their lives. Now here, especially in reference to daughter(s), we are given a very sobering task: to bring them up, and teach them to do their potential husband âgood and not evil all the days of her life.â?
Doing this potential husband âgood and not evilâ? starts at birth! ââ¦all the days of her lifeâ?. Iâm not adding to Godâs precious Word here! God is very clear ââ¦all the days of her life.â? If we are truly Bible believers, that starts at conception. Have we done al that God expects of us hereâ¦.
I have failed many times in this high calling. How I treat my children or my husband, will have a direct bearing on how they treat their husbands.
Working with Proverbs 31, 1Peter 3:1-6, Titus 2:3-5, hereâs some points to ponder on aspects of training and teaching our daughters to do this high calling.
Giving their husbands the good gifts of:
1.Â Purity, virtuousness â Have I taught my girls the importance of being pure?
2.Â Trustworthiness –
3.Â Financial wisdom (thriftiness) â
4.Â Concern for her householdâs well being â
5.Â Honourable -Â are our daughters honouring their husbands even now?
6.Â Hard worker â
7.Â Submissiv, respectful, reverential wife â 1Peter 3:1-6
8.Â Not vain –
9.Â Meek and quiet spirit â
10. Helpmeet â
11. Holy behaviour
12. Truthful (not false accusers)
13. Sober in thoughts and actions
14. Teachers of good things
17. Keepers at home
19. Obedient to their own husbands
20. Focused on not having the word of God be not blasphemed by their disobedience and unwillingness to follow Godâs plan.
September 29, 2006
A Glimpse of Perfection
This precious little daughter
That the Lord has given you,
Will doubtless bring you more joy,
As she smiles back up at you.
How gracious a Heavenly Father,
As on you such love He has shown.
Entrusting you with another child,
For you to raise up as your own.
Each time you look upon her,
Gives reason to remember;
She is a special reward
From your Heavenly Father.
And as He is filling your quiver,
With this great token of His love
Take more time aside to remember,
All His past blessings from above.
Looking on God’s perfection;
Remember, He makes all things new;
Providing you a sweet glimpse,
Of the work He’s doing in you.
For while He has given you,
A new life, for Him, to train;
He is also moulding you,
In the image of His name.
Angela B. Trenholm
June 2nd, 2004
Written for friends upon the birth
of their 6th child, a daughter, in 2004.
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them:
they shall not be ashamed,
but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Train up a child in the way he should go:
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Being confident of this very thing,
hat he which hath begun a good work in you
will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:
by Fanny Crosby
Blessed assurance, Jesus is mine!
O what a foretaste of glory divine!
Heir of salvation, purchase of God,
Born of His Spirit, washed in His blood.
This is my story, this is my song,
Praising my Savior, all the day long;
This is my story, this is my song,
Praising my Savior, all the day long.
Perfect submission, perfect delight,
Visions of rapture now burst on my sight;
Angels descending bring from above
Echoes of mercy, whispers of love.
Perfect submission, all is at rest
I in my Savior am happy and blest,
Watching and waiting, looking above,
Filled with His goodness, lost in His love.